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- Why so much anger?
The truth is (by experience) nothing good comes from holding on to
anger, but sometimes it is inevitable. You can cause so much damage and
destruction to others around you, even worse without even thinking
about it you cause tremendous damage to yourself.
Creating a vendetta is the easy way to make people feel the way you feel and release all that negative energy that is consuming you. The problem is that each and every time your heart and body feels more consumed by the power of anger. You start losing control over your mind, which leads you to lose control over your actions. You end up in a devastating chaos that collapses in a lot of frustration and unhappiness.
Is that the type of life that you want for the rest of your life?
If the answer is yes, then good luck. If the answer is no, all I can tell you is that I’m glad you want to become a better person. Some steps I’ve learned to overcome anger in my life:
1- Accept you are angry.
2- Target that “thing” (person, comment, situation, place, etc) that makes you angry.
3- Gain control over your mind (find the best healthy way to keep you anger under control i.e. meditation, friends, writing, running, etc.)
4- Keep yourself busy and away from the source that causes you so much anger (find hobbies).
5- Remember that sometimes you simply can’t have control of everything that happens in the outside, but you have total control of everything that happens inside you. With that said, you need to learn how to let it go. Whatever is making you so angry… LET IT GO! Do you really want to waste your precious time and energy on the source of anger?
6- One of the biggest things you can do, once you let it go, if the situation or source of anger reappears, DO NOT FEED ANGER. Do not act/react to the source that is making you mad. Stay calm, keep it cool and keep your mind focused on all the good and positive things you have going on with your life (if needed, go back to step 3 and do it all over again until you find your inner self again).
7- The last and most important thing is to never beat yourself up nor the source provoking anger. Be compassionate and remember that each individual behave and manage things differently. Compassion and love can overcome the worst of angers.
Now, this will not work over night. This is something that requires practice and work. Congratulations you are now one step closer to have control over your mind and emotions. Sit back, drink tea, listen to good music and chill. Life is so much beautiful without holding on to anger.